December 2nd, 2014

B&W swirls

100 Days Of Happy - Day 76

I haven't worked today ... but have, so far, had a good day.

One thing I am happy about is that, at long last, I got to my Dementia & Delerium training.  I was worried how I would cope with it because of Dad, but it's compulsary.  In actual fact it made me realise that Dad is doing OK and so am I!

I then went shopping in Exeter as I had to go to the bank ... I think I found the largest Christmas bauble ever ... and that also made me happy!

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Son of a preacher man.

Dad's Birthday Pictures

As you all know, it was Dad's 90th birthday last week.  Although we were all looking forward to the event I was also slightly worried that he would find things too much, with his Alzheimers, and Mum woukd also end up overwhelmed as she has very little vision, and has been unwell much of this last year.

However Dad said that he had a great time - one of the best birthdays.

On the Thursday I arrived not long before lunch, and he opened his "90" badge!  Then off to lunch - a local carvery.  Although he wore a jacket, the badge peeped through, so a lot of people wished him a happy birthday ... which was really nice for him.  His mother was in no way maternal, and then it was the depression, so birthdays as a kid would have been low-key ... so nice that he had a lot of fuss from those he met.

However, he has this one picture that is dated 11 weeks old -
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So, a good lunch.  Then back to open his cards and pressies.  Just as he finished a couple from our Church came round, so I took Jiffy for his walk.

Mum and Dad had a snooze before a late-ish tea ... and then one of Dad's favourite films on DVD - "Some Like It Hot" ... he may be 90, but Marilyn Monroe in "those" dresses finished off his day well for him!

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Dad's Family Birthday

On the Saturday all the family arrived to celebrate Dad's birthday.

Andrew was the first to arrive as I picked him up from the station (my brother Tim had arranged to do that, but somehow decided it would be too much, so organised me ... still it meant I got a chance for a bit of a chat with him, so that was good).  About 1/2 hour after we got back Tim & Claire arrived, and about 10 mins later Nick & Brenda and the remaining 3 boys arrived ... so all there!

Brenda and Claire had arranged the food between them ... to make things easier, although I still had the house to organise, and bought the drinks.  Claire did dinner, and Brenda puddings (home-made cheesecake and pineapple upsidedown cake ... yummy!)

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Then Dad had a snooze while some of us took Jiffy for a walk ... and so to the pressies from the N&T
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As ever when family get together it's a time of relaxation and chat ... although I know that old habits die hard and as I find myself retreating as I did when I was bullied as a teen.  I love my family dearly, but even they can make me feel on the outside.

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And so to tea.  Again, Brenda had made cakes (Joey had made brownies) and Claire had done the savouries.

Although, Mum made the actual cake - she has always made him one and despite her sight problems, still wanted to do it.

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And sadly soon time to head home ... well, it was eventually.  Nicks diesel car had a flat battery, so Tim went and bought jump leads from an all night garage ... and plugged it onto my car

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A good day - and another one that Dad enjoyed.


For the observant - there was a bunch of flowers on the table.

When Dad went out to buy the paper he came back with them.  He knew he wanted to buy them, but couldn't (sadly) remember why.  Well, Mum & Dad moved in together 18 months after their marriage ... the week of dad's birthday, and since then on the Saturday after his birthday he has always bought her a plant or flowers.  So sad he had forgotten the reason, but lovely to see the thought was still there.