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Truly An Answer To Prayer 
24th-Nov-2015 08:41 pm
James - looking down
Yet again I need to apologise for my lack of participation ... But as ever life is hectic.

Dad is up and down, as sadly he picked up a sickness bug.  His mobility is slightly better - he has problems standing up, but once up with a frame and help he moves quickly.  His right arm is much better and he is gradually learning to  feed himself with his right hand.  However his short term memory is pretty non-existant.  When he speaks his words are very confused, which is hard to us all.  He chats away, but it is hard to know what about.  The Rehab hospital is great, but last week we had a meeting as a first step on the future.  Tim was all for sorting out a home ... to "help" me.  The hospital were great with me at talking through the possibility of him coming home as it was what I had hoped for.  Although my head could see all the worries, my heart didn't want to feel that I was throwing him out of his house.

However this afternoon when I was seeing Dad he was very clear and talked of the future ... and wanted to go to a place where he is cared for all the time, as home is no longer home.

So, sad to see we are at thispoint, but so wonderful that he was clear in what he wanted for us both ... Thank you God for answered prayer.

I now have a house to sort out!  ... And loads of LJ to catch up on!
Comments 
24th-Nov-2015 10:45 pm (UTC)
Oh that is an answer to prayer, indeed. I am so glad he was able to express his feelings clearly.

I can see what he means, too, about it not being home now that your Mum has died.

I hope you can now find somewhere that you will all feel will be comfortable for him.
9th-Jan-2016 02:07 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
25th-Nov-2015 01:51 am (UTC)
How sad, but at the same time, how wonderful that is able to tell you his preferences. I'm sure without your mum there, the house no longer feels like a home to him. Even with Jiffy and you to keep it so. *hugs you tight*
9th-Jan-2016 02:07 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
25th-Nov-2015 02:50 am (UTC)
I'm so glad that he was able to be clear enough to make and express that decision to you. Hugs. I hold you in my thoughts and heart through what is clearly a hard time. Hugs.
9th-Jan-2016 02:07 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
25th-Nov-2015 08:22 am (UTC)
I'm glad that he was able to make his wishes known to you.
9th-Jan-2016 02:07 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
25th-Nov-2015 09:03 am (UTC)
I'm glad your Dad was able to make his wishes clear and I'm sure that has helped you all plan for the future.
9th-Jan-2016 02:08 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
25th-Nov-2015 01:08 pm (UTC)
T'is for the best, but it might not seem so at the moment. Shall marshall my thoughts and comment later. Just feel blessed that your dad was able to make an informed decision, and that is really the most important thing.
9th-Jan-2016 02:08 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
25th-Nov-2015 02:35 pm (UTC)
It is, indeed, wonderful that your father could express his thoughts about his future care so clearly.
9th-Jan-2016 02:08 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
25th-Nov-2015 04:45 pm (UTC)
It is sad to think of your Dad going into a home, but good that he knows what he wants (and needs) and was able to express those wishes. Good luck with finding a suitable and caring place for him.

I hope he continues to do well - and don't you overdo it with the house-sorting!

*hugs*
9th-Jan-2016 02:08 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
26th-Nov-2015 01:21 pm (UTC)
Such a tough time for all of you, but glad your Dad had that moment of clarity to help ease your concern. I think of you often and hope you and your family are hanging in there. <3
9th-Jan-2016 02:08 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
28th-Nov-2015 01:36 am (UTC)
Glad to hear your dad managed to express his wishes. It must have been such a relief. Good luck with the house sorting.
9th-Jan-2016 02:08 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

It was still a hard decision to place Dad in a home and not care for him ... even though I know it is best for him.

*hugs*
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