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10th-Feb-2015 02:43 pm
OK - James
I am starting this at the dentist while I wait for mum.

I know that I am being used ....THANK YOU to all those who have pointed that out ...but sadly if I don't do the caring no one will as ...."mum can manage" ... it's always been the fact that as I have always been single and always lived with them for weekends .... so I suppose I have created my problems. Sadly for anyone else she is "fine!" When Tim came for half hour last week and he was so pleased she is well ... so I think whatever I say or do they will just say I am exaggerating.

Still even though I am frustrated I do feel sorry as while in hospital she broke a tooth and has had to have the root removed ... so added to everything else it does seem unfair😱

As for the decs one or two bits are down ... so I suppose I can say I am getting there. I will get back to my place about 9pm so will do some more

Oh well looks like mum is ready so will send this later ... it is great to be able to play now I have the tablet.... and have got hold of the internet codes.

To show I am playing ... let me share ...
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Comments 
10th-Feb-2015 07:16 pm (UTC)
Glad the tablet is working well. I imagine it's nice and light to carry around too.
13th-Feb-2015 07:43 pm (UTC)
Yes my tablet means that I can be with mum and dad and still type this answer 😁
10th-Feb-2015 11:05 pm (UTC)
Hugs.

Jiffy!!!!

Now for the meat of my comment. Ahem. You are the caretaker in your family. It's your role. You are with your parents more frequently than anyone else. You know what is a good day and what is a not good day. You know what is normal for your parents now. Don't let anyone tell you differently and don't stop advocating for them. Be stubborn regarding their care and situation. Ask for help and independent evaluation when you think they're warranted. And take care of yourself too.

Hugs!!!
13th-Feb-2015 07:53 pm (UTC)
Thank you ... a positive reminder that I really needed .... it's good to support them even though it's hard to see them going through it.

Jiffy continues to be a darling 😄
11th-Feb-2015 01:17 am (UTC)
I don't think you are being used, you are just being a good daughter! I know it is tough sometimes but you are doing the right thing.
13th-Feb-2015 07:55 pm (UTC)
I know you know what it's like ... hard to see what is happening but good to be there for them
11th-Feb-2015 01:46 am (UTC)
Deb, I've been there. You are the caretaker. I was for many years. Hold onto days you have with your parents. They have had a very long life and love you dearly. They might not say it, but they are proud of you. The person you have become and the wonderful daughter you are to them. I do wish your brothers would help you a bit more. Just a few days off to rest would help you. You have blessed their lives as you have blessed everyone who knows you for the wonderful person you are.

I owe you a long email. So much has happened. My life is about to change very much. It's put me into a very depressed state so I'm not online much. Knowing people like you helps me greatly.
13th-Feb-2015 08:27 pm (UTC)
Kuda I wish I could hug you .... your comment just gave me the boost I needed ... I actually have spent some time smiling and feeling relaxed ... I needed to remember that I won't always have them and to be able to help, even though it is hard to see what is happening to them.

I wish I could give you another hug as things are tough for you. If only that pond wasn't there .... you are a very special person ... and you mean so much to me

HUGS
11th-Feb-2015 04:06 pm (UTC)
Aren't tablets wonderful! Glad you've got yours up and running and that you've found the internet codes as well. Anything that can help you get some well needed 'me' time is a great boon.

Hope everyone's doing OK at the moment. (And never mind about answering comments, everyone knows how busy life is for you at the moment)
13th-Feb-2015 08:00 pm (UTC)
Yes I am using the tablet now .... and with mum and dad as well .... so I can be "with friends" but still with them.

Hope you are all keeping well ... and the kids are studying hard
16th-Feb-2015 12:13 am (UTC)
I'm trying to catch up with my F-List; didn't know you're using a tablet now. I guess it's a lot better for watching because the size.

As for the other thing - you're a caretaker. But don't forget - if things get too much, ask the others for help. *hugs*
28th-Feb-2015 08:45 pm (UTC)
I do like the tablet ... it's a nice size to use for me with the family.
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