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Dad's Family Birthday 
2nd-Dec-2014 08:14 pm
On the Saturday all the family arrived to celebrate Dad's birthday.

Andrew was the first to arrive as I picked him up from the station (my brother Tim had arranged to do that, but somehow decided it would be too much, so organised me ... still it meant I got a chance for a bit of a chat with him, so that was good).  About 1/2 hour after we got back Tim & Claire arrived, and about 10 mins later Nick & Brenda and the remaining 3 boys arrived ... so all there!

Brenda and Claire had arranged the food between them ... to make things easier, although I still had the house to organise, and bought the drinks.  Claire did dinner, and Brenda puddings (home-made cheesecake and pineapple upsidedown cake ... yummy!)

Brenda and Claire
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Then Dad had a snooze while some of us took Jiffy for a walk ... and so to the pressies from the N&T
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As ever when family get together it's a time of relaxation and chat ... although I know that old habits die hard and as I find myself retreating as I did when I was bullied as a teen.  I love my family dearly, but even they can make me feel on the outside.

Tom (15 tomorrow), Dan (17 today) and Andrew (19)
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Dan, Brenda, Tom
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Claire, Tim
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Nick, Andrew, Joey (12 day before yesterday)
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And so to tea.  Again, Brenda had made cakes (Joey had made brownies) and Claire had done the savouries.

Although, Mum made the actual cake - she has always made him one and despite her sight problems, still wanted to do it.

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Andrew helping Granddad
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And sadly soon time to head home ... well, it was eventually.  Nicks diesel car had a flat battery, so Tim went and bought jump leads from an all night garage ... and plugged it onto my car

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A good day - and another one that Dad enjoyed.


For the observant - there was a bunch of flowers on the table.

When Dad went out to buy the paper he came back with them.  He knew he wanted to buy them, but couldn't (sadly) remember why.  Well, Mum & Dad moved in together 18 months after their marriage ... the week of dad's birthday, and since then on the Saturday after his birthday he has always bought her a plant or flowers.  So sad he had forgotten the reason, but lovely to see the thought was still there.
2nd-Dec-2014 09:01 pm (UTC)
What a lovely family celebration - and how bitter-sweet about your Dad and the flowers.
4th-Dec-2014 10:01 pm (UTC)
It is amazing how Dad remembered the flowers ... for whatever reason!

We had a great time
2nd-Dec-2014 09:52 pm (UTC)
It looks like your father had a wonderful day - thank you for all the pictures and that last thing about the flowers made me all sniffly. ♥
4th-Dec-2014 10:01 pm (UTC)
Dad had a great day - It is amazing how Dad remembered the flowers ... for whatever reason!
2nd-Dec-2014 10:01 pm (UTC)
Looks like a very happy celebration. And that's sad that he's lost the memory of the flowers.
4th-Dec-2014 10:02 pm (UTC)
It was a special couple of days for him

It is amazing how Dad remembered the flowers ... for whatever reason!
2nd-Dec-2014 10:31 pm (UTC)
How sweet that your Mum made the cake and your Dad bought the flowers!

So much love still there even if eyesight and memory are fading
4th-Dec-2014 10:02 pm (UTC)
It is amazing how Dad remembered the flowers ... for whatever reason!

They certainly are still two halves of a whole.
2nd-Dec-2014 11:21 pm (UTC)
Happy Birthday to him :)
At last he remembered the flowers - even if it's sad that he has forgotten why. *sigh*
4th-Dec-2014 10:03 pm (UTC)
He had a lovely time.

It is amazing how Dad remembered the flowers ... for whatever reason!
3rd-Dec-2014 08:24 am (UTC)
It looks like everyone had a lovely time. It is sad that your Dad couldn't remember why he bought the flowers but how lovely that he knew deep down that they needed to be bought. I'm sure that's a positive thing.

I'm sure Tim and Claire are unaware of how they make you feel - is it worth having a quiet word?
4th-Dec-2014 09:54 pm (UTC)
It is amazing how Dad remembered the flowers ... for whatever reason!

All the family (especially Tim & Claire) know how I retreat at the first sign of a crowd ... even those I love. I know that it's something I do, and have been trying to get out of, but this last year has been such a tough time on my nerves that old habits are creeping back!! In fact they are the ones who give me the most positive support at fighting those "demons"
4th-Dec-2014 08:07 pm (UTC)
Lovely pictures of a great family day Deborah. I remember you saying before that your dad has always bought your mum flowers after his birthday - the memory and love is still there, and showing itself, despite the alzheimers. Just lovely, though so sad. I love his badge too!
4th-Dec-2014 09:49 pm (UTC)
It is amazing how Dad remembered the flowers ... for whatever reason!

I couldn't find a smaller badge, but I think that one suited him!
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