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Still Alive - I Think! 
14th-Dec-2015 12:13 pm
Mum
SORRY - I haven't looked at my friends list fror ages, I have comments dating back since Mum's funeral I haven't answered ... and yet I do miss you all.  I am hoping once the New Year settles I shall be able to get back to you all, and to my art work ... and maybe even some writing.

Quick update -

  • I managed to lose a front tooth last week (T&C took me out to Sunday lunch, and the peas fought back!!)  As it was a crown I managed to get it done again, the next day.  I had wondered as I had damaged the post, but Monica did wonders.  So I can smile again.

  • I have been "home hunting" for dad ... How depressing most of them are.  I did question in my mind if all the residents of one home were drugged.  However we all decided we want the best for dad.  Seeing as he is moving to be near me and Tim, it is a city ... so expensive.  However much we tried to talk our way to something cheeper, we just couldn't.  The manager will see Dad this afternoon, so hope it goes OK.  The home, while expensive, is a new purpose built unit for dementia, based on a 5* spa hotel.

  • So as well as sorting out Mum's stuff and the loft, I now have to sort out Dad's ... pictures, books, clothes, ornaments etc.

  • I also have to move all my stuff to my place.  I have always had a bedroom at M&D's ... 50:50 for everything, so that needs to change.

  • So far Nick, Tim & myself haven't fallen out over china, etc ... Only one item is wanted by all 3 of us and it is the bowl we saved up to buy them for their silver wedding in 1977.

  • Jiffy is fine ... well, biting his toes, but Marni says it is stress.  As my ecxma is back, I'm not surprised.

  • I have almost finished Dad's Christmas cards ... then I have to start on my own.

  • We have sorted Christmas ... will update as it happens (I hope)


Well I am sure there is more, as I haven't seemed to stop.

SORRY, again ... miss you
*hugs*
Comments 
14th-Dec-2015 01:26 pm (UTC)
I've been thinking of you and your family, Deborah. Sending love and hugs to you all. *hugs*
30th-Dec-2015 05:15 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

*hugs*
14th-Dec-2015 01:28 pm (UTC)
Don't worry about answering comments! You have far more to do and you don't need more stress! I hope your dad settles well and that the home is worth the fees!
30th-Dec-2015 05:16 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support.

He is more settled in his home now, and it is great to see him being so well cared for and well fed.

*hugs*
14th-Dec-2015 03:00 pm (UTC)
So sorry about all the changes in your (and your dad's) life. With all your racing around trying to find a home for your dad, try to take time for you.
30th-Dec-2015 05:17 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

I am actually having a fairly lazy week this week, which has ended up with me sleeping a lot!!

*hugs*
14th-Dec-2015 03:55 pm (UTC)
It's good to get an update from you. You and your brothers have a lot to deal with, so don't worry about your lj friends.

I hope that you find a good place for your father.
30th-Dec-2015 05:17 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

We found a home that we all agreed on ... the most expensive, yet it is good to see Dad being so well cared for.

*hugs*
14th-Dec-2015 07:11 pm (UTC)
We do miss you - so you know you are most welcome whenever we see you around.

Finding the right home is difficult - but I'm sure you three will be making sure he is in the right place for him.

You will have to draw lots for the silver wedding bowl!

Love to you for Christmas.
30th-Dec-2015 05:19 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

I am beginning to make an effort to return to LJ, having begun to re-settle in my own place. Although Jiffy can't see why I do this and not play with him!!

Still deciding on the Silver Wedding bowl ... I'll let you know!!

*hugs*
14th-Dec-2015 09:20 pm (UTC)
I'm not surprised that Jiffy is stressed; hopefully soon you will be able to settle into a routine and she'll calm down.

Hope the home works out

And as to the bowl, stuff is just stuff, your memories and the knowledge that you've done absolutely everything you could and have been and continue to be an amazing daughter is what matters

(hugs)
30th-Dec-2015 05:22 pm (UTC)
Jiffy is beginning to settle, although he's not happy with me today as it's raining. I think he is learning that I have to come and go (well, I re-start work next week, so he will have to cope with that).

Certainly family memories fill my brain - I have a feeling Nick will have the bowl, as he didn't want much and Tim and I have debated over other things as well.

*hugs*
14th-Dec-2015 10:05 pm (UTC)
You could always share the bowl. One person has it for one year and then on the date of the anniversary or another agreed upon date, it goes to the next person and so on.

Finding a nursing home is always difficult. Although expensive, you do get what you pay for. I've seen many and they are definitely NOT all the same. Good luck.
30th-Dec-2015 05:23 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

Brilliant idea about the bowl!! Yes, we did end up placing dad in an expensive home, but it is good to see him so well cared for. So worth the money for that peace of mind.

*hugs*
15th-Dec-2015 12:18 am (UTC)
Merry Christmas!! You have been through a lot - please don't stress about replying to old comments. Please take care of yourself. BTW, love the icon - your mother was so lovely, and how you do resemble her! Please take care, Deb.
30th-Dec-2015 05:24 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

Happy Christmas - hope things are a bit better now for you. You certainly keep having tough days, don't you?

*hugs*
15th-Dec-2015 06:06 pm (UTC)
You've got a lot on your plate and you're doing an admirable job of managing everything. Know you are loved and supported from many places.
30th-Dec-2015 05:25 pm (UTC)
Belated thanks for your love and support

The care means so much to me

*hugs*
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