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10 Days On 
10th-Nov-2015 12:00 pm
Son of a preacher man.
Sorry I have been missing, but as my last post said, Dad had a massive stroke.

His speach was slurred and vague, he couldn't move his right leg, and nurses moving it caused pain, and he couldn't move his right arm, and his fingers were clenched tight.

Now, 11 days later I can post a photo I took yesterday ... He still has a long way to go, but has recovered from the pneumonia he also developed and has been moved to a rehab unit.  He walks (with a frame and 2 supporters), and can now just about get a spoon to his mouth with his right hand.  His speach s fine, although his memory is still muddles ... but add Alzheimer's, mum's death and the stroke, it's not suprising.

 photo Dad_zpsbz7pesuc.jpg

Sorry I haven't been around, but my CFS has kicked in, and with walking Jiffy and visiting twice a day, me-time is non-existant.

As I type this I am surrounded by boxes as Nick and Dan (17) came down last Saturday morning to empty the loft.  Tim had kept talking about it, but that was as far as it got ... so now I have to sort - Auction, keep, charity, recycle and dump!

So, I know I have loads of comments to reply to, but just don't have time.  I shall try and rig Mum's laptop up so as I sit in the evening for an hour I can catch up with you all.

Also - special thanks to 2 very special people ... it truly meant a lot  *hugs*
Comments 
10th-Nov-2015 01:25 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to read about your father's stroke. Don't worry about your LJ friends. Our concern is to offer whatever support to you that we can.
14th-Nov-2015 09:07 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but eemed a bit better tonight.
10th-Nov-2015 01:32 pm (UTC)
I have been worrying about you both. It is good to see him looking so well at this stage.

I am not at all surprised your CFS has kicked in - and I know that you know not to push yourself too hard as it will make you even worse, and able to do less in the long-run, so there is no point in telling you that!

But please do try to take care of yourself - for how often, on wards, have you heard nurses saying to carers "Remember, if you end up so worn out that you can't look after him, he will end up back here, or in a home. So the best thing you can do for him is to look after yourself."?

{{{Hugs}}} And no reply is needed for I know you are busy.
14th-Nov-2015 09:10 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.

I have been able to have a bit of a lazier day today, but found it hard to do as there is so much that I should be doing.
10th-Nov-2015 04:22 pm (UTC)
Take care of yourself Deb - I'm glad your Dad has rallied.
14th-Nov-2015 09:10 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.
10th-Nov-2015 04:51 pm (UTC)
So good to see this update, I'm glad your dad is doing so much better. Don't worry about keeping up with LJ (other than to give yourself a break and a bit of 'me time'), we know how difficult things are for you and don't expect you to be posting and commenting frequently.

I'm not surprised that your CFS has kicked in, just make sure you remember that you're not 100% yourself and don't push yourself too hard. Leave those boxes alone!

Thoughts are with you as always, take care of yourself as well as of your dad and Jiffy. *hugs*
14th-Nov-2015 09:11 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days. Your text meant a lot.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.

I have been able to have a bit of a lazier day today, but found it hard to do as there is so much that I should be doing.
10th-Nov-2015 05:40 pm (UTC)
Take care of yourself! My thoughts are with you.
14th-Nov-2015 09:12 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.
10th-Nov-2015 05:58 pm (UTC)
So glad to here your dad is doing better. With all the stress you have been under, no wonder your CFS has come back. Feel better.
14th-Nov-2015 09:15 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.

I have been able to have a bit of a lazier day today, but found it hard to do as there is so much that I should be doing.
10th-Nov-2015 06:03 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry about your dad's stroke and glad to read of some improvement. He looks pretty chipper in that photo. Please take good care of yourself!
14th-Nov-2015 09:12 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.
10th-Nov-2015 06:32 pm (UTC)
Sending along good vibes for both of you.

And try and take good care of yourself, especially these troubling days.
14th-Nov-2015 09:12 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.
10th-Nov-2015 06:38 pm (UTC)
So glad to hear your father is doing better!

And don't be sorry for not being around - your life sounds very hectic and worrying. Hope things keep improving. <3
14th-Nov-2015 09:12 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.
10th-Nov-2015 06:44 pm (UTC)
Your Dad is amazing! So strong!

And so, my dear are you ((hugs))
14th-Nov-2015 09:13 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days. Thank you more than I can say *hugs*

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.
10th-Nov-2015 07:28 pm (UTC)
Huge hugs to you! You're certainly getting dumped on lately. You're in my thoughts and prayers. And yay dad for making great progress! More hugs!
14th-Nov-2015 09:14 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.

*hugs* back
10th-Nov-2015 09:23 pm (UTC)
I'm really glad to know he's ok, honey. Take care of yourself sweetie!
14th-Nov-2015 09:14 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.
11th-Nov-2015 12:28 am (UTC)
Glad to hear your dad is recovering. I hope you'll get a chance to rest soon.
14th-Nov-2015 09:14 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.
11th-Nov-2015 01:40 am (UTC)
Well, he looks quite cheery in the photo, so that's good. It is not fun watching our parents age and decline. I'm sorry, Deb.
14th-Nov-2015 09:18 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.

It has been a hard few years, but I try to remind myself that I am 54 and have only just lost mum.
14th-Nov-2015 09:25 pm (UTC)
*nods* It is part of the cycle of life, but it always seems to be too soon - no matter old we are.
12th-Nov-2015 08:42 pm (UTC)
I'm glad to hear he's doing so well considering he had a stroke. When I've read it I feared the worst.
*hugs you tight*
And get well wishes to both of you.
14th-Nov-2015 09:15 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.
14th-Nov-2015 07:51 pm (UTC)
Oh, Deborah! *hugs you close*
I just found the time to read your latest entries! I´m so sorry that you have/had to go through so much in these last couple of weeks.
I´m sending a lot of positive vibes your way and am wishing your Dad a quick recovery and all the best. Keep us updated, please!

*hugs some more*
14th-Nov-2015 09:16 pm (UTC)
Thank you - the support of friends are what are getting me through these days.

Dad has had a bad few days over the last of days, but seemed a bit better tonight.

*huggles you tight*
20th-Nov-2015 05:56 am (UTC)
It has been a while since I've checked in here, and I am so sorry to read of this. So much has happened in your family, and at the moment I lack the proper words. Hugs, and best wishes.
20th-Dec-2015 04:51 pm (UTC)
*hugs* - I am so sorry I am late getting back to you, but as you can imagine life is hectic!

I have missed seeing your updates - hope things are OK with you.
25th-Jan-2016 10:10 pm (UTC)
Hi Deb, you have a lot on your plate as of late, so no apology necessary! *hugs*
Life has been somewhat of a rollercoaster for me lately - so much so that I could never catch up on a single post.
On another note, I have decided to stop posting on this site for the time being, as most of my friends deleted their accounts here, and the rest have gone dormant. I decided that if I were going to just babble to myself, I would do it on dreamwidth for a while - lol. At least I'm not bombarded with the posts of people I don't know and groups I don't care about on the home page there - more like old lj. It's kind of strange, because it's an account that is mostly friend locked with no friends! But I have become rather accustomed to writing things out that are on my mind.
I don't know what the future holds for me as far as online posting. I suspect I will post there for a short bit, but since my online world has become somewhat void of a friends circle, it is quite possible that I will begin to phase out posting altogether.
*hugs*
17th-Feb-2016 02:01 pm (UTC)
Sorry for the late reply - life gets away from me too easily.

It is hard knowing the best thing to do for ourselves, and even worse to help those we love.

I suppose my thoughts last year (and now when I get busy, but still go to see Dad) is that I don't want to have any regrets. I know we all have them, but it is good to try to keep things to a minimum!
19th-Feb-2016 03:35 am (UTC)
That's quite alright. We both have had a lot going on in recent years. It's quite exhausting. While I haven't been posting much, I can very much relate to what you have been going through. I did decide to crosspost from dw for a bit, what few posts I make.

Life is too short, and very precious. I think we often don't think about that when we are younger, but it becomes quite apparent as we and our loved ones age. xo
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