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An Update On Time!! 
13th-Oct-2015 04:25 pm
Mum
Actually have a free moment to update, again, and find that yesterday was the 12 ... so thought I would do my monthlydiaryday update ... so you know what I was up to yeasterday.

A lazy start to the day, which was nice, as I haven't really been sleeping well every day.

After Dad and I had breakfast we drove to my house.  Once there, as the weather was gorgeous, I did some of the gardening I had been planning for the last 6 months ... and even got Dad involved doing some work with the bark round the edge of the patio.

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We had lunch and then I went off to the hospital I work at to get a flu jab, and to speak to my department that I have been working at.  They have been so friendly and helpful all year and I had arrived at my place to see a card signed by most of the department in sympathy for the loss of mum.  I spoke about my hope to get back there a few hours a week, and they said whatever I could manage would be really great.

Sadly when I got back Dad was in a bit of a panic as he had mislaid Jiffy's lead ... so I found that and they went for a short walk.  When they came back, Dad lay down for a short time and I took Jiffy out again.

Then back home for tea, and in the evening we watched a couple of Waltons episodes.


Yes, Dad does have panics ... this afternoon we spent a lot of time going through photo albums as he was all muddled as to mum, his sister and his mother ... where they lived, etc.  I think I got him square again ... but so, so sad to see.

I have written a basic eulogy, so have sent it to Nick to see what he thinks .... Tomorrow I must take our cards down to the florist, because, although Mum is not being buried locally, we are getting the wreath from a local shop, as Dad knows them well (they also sell pet food).

Thank you for your love & support - it is what is carrying me through.
Comments 
13th-Oct-2015 04:42 pm (UTC)
I've been thinking of you at this difficult time.
20th-Dec-2015 02:37 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you
13th-Oct-2015 05:14 pm (UTC)
I am sorry to hear of your loss. Take care of you.
20th-Dec-2015 02:37 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you
13th-Oct-2015 05:51 pm (UTC)
You're daily in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong, and speak to your doctor about the sleeping problem. If you're ill or even exhausted from lack of sleep, you'll be less equipped to help your father. "You can't pour from an empty cup."
20th-Dec-2015 02:37 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you

That is a lovely analogy, poring from an empty cup. I will admit I do use every rop!!
13th-Oct-2015 07:55 pm (UTC)
Thank you for taking the time to update. It is nice to know that you are making it through these tough times. I will keep you in my thoughts.
20th-Dec-2015 02:38 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you
13th-Oct-2015 09:01 pm (UTC)
You are so supportive and thoughtful of your father.

I do hope that you can get back to work even for a few hours a week, it is good to have something that's yours.

And you are so very much in my thoughts
20th-Dec-2015 02:38 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you

I am hoping to get some regular shifts sorted in the New Year.
13th-Oct-2015 09:06 pm (UTC)
Good to hear from you. It must be hard to see your Dad with such memory problems - but he looks content in your picture.

I am thinking of you all, and remember you in my prayers - I hope you all cope well with the funeral.

Good to hear, too, that the department would be happy to have you back even for a few hours here or there.
20th-Dec-2015 02:40 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you

I am hoping to get a few days a week regular work in the same dept come the New Year. They wanted a Grade 4 (I am a 2), but have said that as they know me, they know they could train me for the specific task ... so I shall wait and see
14th-Oct-2015 09:27 am (UTC)
I hope you can manage a few hours a week at work that sounds like a good idea. Perhaps it's time to look at the additional hope you could get for your Dad? I'm sure it would help him and you to have someone else to help with his care? Even if it's to sit with him while you are at work to make sure he's OK?

Stay strong and do make sure you care for yourself as well.
20th-Dec-2015 02:41 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you

By now my plans that I typed here have gone ... but new plans are sorting out, and I know Dad will not be alone.
14th-Oct-2015 03:37 pm (UTC)
I was wondering how you were doing. Is your father living with you now?
20th-Dec-2015 02:42 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you

Sadly, Dad had a stroke the week after the funeral and is now not well enough to live at home, so this week he went into care ... hard choices.
15th-Oct-2015 04:53 pm (UTC)
I'm glad the hospital is being so supportive and I'm glad your dad got to enjoy the nice weather. I'm sorry he's struggling so much :( Continuing to keep you all in my thoughts and prayers!
20th-Dec-2015 02:42 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you

Our God is great. Thank you
20th-Oct-2015 08:45 pm (UTC)
Catching up with LJ....
My dad isn't having panic attacks but mislaid several things. How fun to hunt these when it happens.

*hugs*
20th-Dec-2015 02:43 pm (UTC)
Belated *hugs* to you

Don't worry - I can never find a thing!! I hope things are well with your dad now.
20th-Dec-2015 05:42 pm (UTC)
..things are well with your dad now. Ah Deb, depends how you look at it. Excuse me for just saying it because I don't know how to say it otherwise: my Dad passed away this Tuesday morning.

I don't know how much you remember or what I've posted *checks* it was in October. The cancer was back, in this bones already but the last kidney was failing too. I updated on Dec. 15th what happened. In this case it was a grace he got to die before he started to be constantly in pain. It still feels too soon. *sigh*
20th-Dec-2015 06:58 pm (UTC)
Oh Cordy, I am so, so sorry ... and I can say that. You have had a rough few years, haven't you?

As you say, he died before the intense pain took over. Mum was like that, unconscious for that last week. Sad to see, but we knew she wasn't suffering.

I do pray that you are able to find some peace over Christmas ... I wish we were nearer.
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